Marc Brackett, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, has published his second book, titled “Dealing with Feeling,” which focuses on teaching individuals how to effectively manage their emotions. Released last month, the book provides practical strategies aimed at enhancing emotional regulation, a skill that Brackett believes is essential for personal and professional success.
In his previous book, “Permission to Feel,” which debuted in 2019, Brackett explored the concept of emotional intelligence and its significance in understanding feelings. Following considerable interest from readers on how to navigate their emotions, he decided to delve deeper into this topic with his latest work. “It was very important for me to write a whole book just on one skill,” Brackett stated, emphasizing the need for individuals to learn not only how to regulate their own emotions but also how to assist others in managing theirs.
Exploring Emotional Regulation
Brackett’s new book begins with a conceptual framework, envisioning a world where everyone possesses the ability to regulate their emotions effectively. He then addresses the reasons why emotional regulation is often overlooked in contemporary society. The book systematically defines emotional regulation, examines prevailing attitudes towards emotions, and culminates in detailed chapters that offer specific strategies for regulation.
Throughout his research, Brackett concluded that emotional regulation involves intentional skills aimed at managing feelings in a manner that aligns with personal goals and values. He acknowledged the challenges he faced while writing the book, particularly in crafting a narrative that resonates with readers. “I’m a much better storyteller when I’m on stage than I am sitting around thinking about a story to tell,” he said.
Brackett credited his colleagues, Karen Niemi and Robin Stern, for their invaluable support during the writing process. They assisted in refining the book’s content, ensuring it struck a balance between being relatable and scientifically grounded. “We had never-ending cycles of discussions on how to frame the information to strike a delicate balance,” Niemi remarked, highlighting the collaborative effort that shaped the book.
Goals for Impact
Brackett aims for “Dealing with Feeling” to achieve three significant outcomes. First, he hopes readers will recognize the importance of emotional regulation in various aspects of life, including health, academic performance, and workplace dynamics. Second, he wants individuals to understand that emotional regulation is a skill that can be learned and improved through practice. Finally, he aspires for people to redefine success based on emotional management rather than material wealth or professional status. “If we define our success by how skillful we are at managing life’s ups and downs and at helping other people to do the same, the world will be a very different place,” Brackett stated.
The concept of emotional intelligence was significantly influenced by former Yale President Peter Salovey, who, alongside Brackett, has contributed to the growing understanding of this vital area of psychological research. As emotional intelligence continues to gain traction in educational and workplace settings, Brackett’s work offers a timely resource for those looking to enhance their emotional skills.
With “Dealing with Feeling,” Brackett seeks to provide readers with essential tools for navigating the complexities of their emotions, fostering a healthier and more empathetic society.