A young man from Rocky Hill, Connecticut, has lost his battle with glioblastoma, a rare and aggressive form of brain cancer, at the age of 21. Ryder Scelza passed away in his mother’s arms after a long and courageous fight against the disease that began in March 2022. His mother, Linda Scelza, said that in his final moments, she assured him it was “OK to go,” prompting him to take two more breaths before he died.
Ryder’s fight against glioblastoma included numerous surgeries and medical treatments, ultimately leading to a point where the tumors were deemed inoperable. Following a medically induced coma late last year, Ryder was unable to communicate. He spent about four months at Cobalt Healthcare and Rehabilitation Center before returning home in early 2024, where he received care from his family, including his twin brother, Reno Scelza.
Linda Scelza shared that Ryder could not communicate after Christmas 2023, but he still found joy in music, particularly that of Taylor Swift. “Hearing the music would make him visibly relax,” she noted. The family had hoped that Swift would connect with Ryder during his battle, but that opportunity never materialized. Nevertheless, her music provided him comfort throughout his illness.
Reflecting on her son’s tenacity, Linda Scelza remarked, “This boy, he fought, he beat every odd there was to beat with the kind of brain cancer he had. He fought and fought.” She emphasized that his struggle was not just for himself but also for her sake, stating, “He was scared for me… his fight was for me.”
Ryder’s family expressed deep gratitude for the time they spent together during his illness. His sister, Alyssa Scelza, remarked on the significance of the moment when their mother told Ryder it was time to let go, believing it provided him the comfort he needed. Linda Scelza maintained a close presence, often sleeping beside him and holding his hand over his heart.
Linda Scelza has dedicated herself to caring for Ryder over the past four years, foregoing work to support him. Her commitment extended beyond emotional support; she created a workspace in her garage to study glioblastoma and advocate for awareness of the disease.
Ryder had specific wishes for his funeral, including the release of butterflies and a horse-drawn carriage to carry his casket. He also requested women pallbearers and an empty seat next to his mother. Family members noted that Ryder’s message to others was one of resilience: “never give up.” His cousin, Alfred Scelza, highlighted Ryder’s inclination to encourage his loved ones to live life to the fullest and to fight fearlessly.
During his time at Gaylord Specialty Healthcare, Ryder became a beloved figure among the staff and patients. A spokesperson for the facility, Joy Savulak, acknowledged his impact, stating, “Ryder touched the lives of every person who had the privilege of meeting him… We will always remember his strength, determination, and his amazing, infectious smile.”
The Scelza family has faced tremendous challenges throughout Ryder’s illness, including over 50 emergency room visits and hospitalizations. Despite the odds stacked against him, Ryder’s spirit and determination shone through, leaving a lasting legacy for those who knew him.
His obituary reflects on his courage and selflessness, noting that while his absence creates a void, his spirit will live on in the hearts of many. Linda Scelza concluded, “He will always be remembered for being a fighter… a true miracle, a true fighter.”