In a recent episode of the dating show Are You My First?, Kaitlyn Bristowe opened up about her first intimate experiences during a candid conversation with cohost Colton Underwood. The discussion provided viewers with a glimpse into her thoughts and feelings surrounding pivotal moments in her life.
Sharing Personal Stories
When Colton, 33, asked Kaitlyn, 40, to describe her first time in three words, she responded without hesitation: “scary, painful, and terrible.” Colton nodded in agreement, sharing his own similar sentiments. As the conversation progressed, Kaitlyn continued to reveal details about her first kiss and her first sexual experience, showcasing her trademark frankness.
Reflecting on her first kiss, she recalled a song playing in the background: “Baby, when the lights go out.” The lyrics belong to the popular 1998 track “When the Lights Go Out” by the boy band Five. In stark contrast, her first sexual experience was marked by what she described as “awkward silence on the couch.”
Kaitlyn indicated that this significant moment occurred on her sister’s “hand-me-down” couch, a remnant from their parents’ divorce. She humorously compared the experience to a “horror film,” emphasizing that it was with her high school sweetheart, whom she genuinely loved. “It was the right choice, but I have vaginismus,” she noted, referencing a condition that causes involuntary tensing of the vaginal muscles, leading to pain during penetration.
Breaking Down Stigmas
Kaitlyn’s willingness to discuss her struggles with vaginismus added depth to the conversation and highlighted the often unspoken challenges individuals face regarding intimacy. She offered advice to those who may be anticipating their first experiences, stating, “It’s not going to be sexy. It’s messy, but so is love.” Colton responded positively, remarking that her insights were “great.”
Both Kaitlyn and Colton, former stars of the Bachelor franchise, are now sharing their perspectives with the contestants of Are You My First?, which streams on Hulu. Colton, who was a virgin during his season as the Bachelor, emphasized that the show’s objective goes beyond physical intimacy. “The goal is to connect with somebody and to experience these things,” he explained.
He acknowledged that participants on Are You My First? experienced their own firsts in various ways. “On a deeper level, I think some of the cast experienced the first self-love and self-acceptance,” Colton added, underlining the significance of understanding one’s virginity in the broader context of personal growth and relationships.
The show aims to foster genuine connections among its contestants, allowing them to navigate their feelings and experiences in a supportive environment. As Kaitlyn and Colton continue to guide participants through their journeys, their own reflections serve as a reminder of the complexities of growing up and facing the realities of love and intimacy.