In a reflective piece, parent and writer April F. Draine shares insights on the challenges of raising children, drawing inspiration from the beloved 2003 film Finding Nemo. Draine recalls how her young daughter was captivated by the movie, particularly the character Dory’s mantra, “Just Keep Swimming,” which resonated throughout her parenting journey. This phrase became more than just a catchphrase; it evolved into a guiding principle as Draine navigated the complexities of her children’s growth.
Navigating Parenting Through Questions
As her daughter transitioned from toddlerhood to her tween and teenage years, Draine found herself facing questions that echoed the themes of the film. Queries such as “Why can’t I start dating now?” and “Why can’t I stay out as long as my friends?” became common, prompting introspection about her own adolescent experiences. One question, in particular, stood out: “Mama, when you were my age, did you ever do anything that made you embarrassed or ashamed of yourself?”
This moment highlighted a pivotal aspect of parenting—balancing the desire to protect one’s image with the need for open communication. Draine reflects on the character Marlin’s struggle in Finding Nemo, where his fears about releasing his son into the wider ocean mirror her own apprehensions about sharing personal stories with her children. The realization struck her: is maintaining a flawless parental image more important than fostering genuine connections with her children?
The Importance of Honest Conversations
Draine emphasizes that avoiding uncomfortable discussions can lead children to seek answers in less reliable sources. She argues that empowering children through age-appropriate conversations cultivates trust and strengthens familial bonds. Drawing from her experiences and the guidance of trusted mentors, she advocates for transparency in parenting.
“Speaking truth to our children in an age-appropriate way gives room to build trust and stronger bonds,” Draine affirms.
She acknowledges that the journey of parenting can often feel isolating, but encourages parents to find their own mantras or motivations—much like Marlin did with Dory’s reminder. This approach not only fosters resilience but also reinforces the idea that children are learning and growing alongside their parents.
As Draine concludes, she reminds us that life’s challenges are best faced together. The ocean of parenting is vast, and there is ample space for growth and learning for both parents and children. “Here’s to swimming. Here’s to growing!” she declares, offering a hopeful perspective for families navigating the waves of life together.