A woman from Ohio is grappling with the impact of her husband’s smoking on her health, as it appears to trigger her debilitating migraines. Despite her attempts to communicate this concern, her husband remains skeptical about the connection, leading to tension in their otherwise loving relationship.
The woman, who has suffered from migraines since her early twenties, identified tobacco smoke as a potential trigger about a year ago. Although her husband, whom she describes as her best friend and a loving partner, is careful not to smoke indoors or in their vehicles, she notices the lingering scent of smoke on his hands and clothing. This has become a source of discomfort for her, particularly when they share intimate moments.
Struggles with Communication and Health
Despite the woman’s reluctance to pressure her husband to quit smoking, she is increasingly aware of a growing resentment each time their closeness is overshadowed by the migraine pain. “I feel horrible that my heart is pulling back because of this one thing,” she expressed in a letter to the advice column “Dear Abby,” written by Abigail Van Buren and her daughter Jeanne Phillips.
In her response, Phillips advised the woman to consult a physician to confirm whether tobacco smoke is indeed the cause of her migraines. She emphasized the importance of having a medical professional explain this potential link to the husband, as he may not fully understand the impact of his smoking habit. Phillips noted that cigarette smoke can cling to a smoker’s hair, skin, and clothing long after they have finished smoking, reinforcing the need for awareness and understanding in the relationship.
Jealousy Among Friends
In a separate letter, another reader from Arkansas sought advice regarding her best friend, “Ellie,” who has exhibited jealousy over her interactions with another woman, “Mica.” After Ellie introduced the reader to Mica, who was seeking help with a new craft, tensions arose when the reader and Mica began to communicate independently. Ellie became upset, indicating a possessive nature that the reader finds difficult to navigate.
Phillips responded by suggesting that the reader avoid mentioning Mica to Ellie to prevent further conflict. This advice highlights the complexities of friendship dynamics, particularly when jealousy is involved.
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